Updated: May 7
Here at the Island Queen Guide, we usually present upbeat content with finance and lifestyle tips; however, with this article, we pause. We pause to acknowledge those who have lost loved ones during the pandemic, to acknowledge those who grieve in the confines of their homes, to acknowledge those who were not allowed to physically attend the funeral of their loved one because they did not make the top ten list. We pause to grieve with you and support you.
As common as death is, we have never truly grasped the concept, no matter how many times we go through it. Each time another hole is drilled in our hearts, but we have to “act normal” because the unfortunate reality is that sadness creates discomfort amongst others. Under normal circumstances, many people only want to know that you are doing “okay”, staying “strong”, and nothing more. As a society, we have been conditioned to take this route when dealing with grief. Your loved one transitions into eternity, there are days where people pass by to offer their condolences, the funeral happens two weeks later, there is a repass with lots of food, and BAM! You are okay. Those that have experienced grief know, however, that this is not the case. You have to get used to a new normal, and that is a soul crushing reality even in the best conditions.
These are abnormal times and we understand that it can make grieving a little more difficult. We are not saying that there is ever a convenient time to lose a loved one, but we acknowledge that these times make it all the more difficult. Along with worries of the economic state, health risks, and job security, you experienced the loss of someone dear to you. Nothing is normal and some people are too overwhelmed to check on you, understandably so. With the never ending concerns, please know that there are people thinking of you, willing to help you with everyday needs, and praying for you, even people you have never met. With everything going on, it is okay to take the time you need to just be; you deserve that much.
For the friends of those who have lost loved ones, please check on them often, give them their space when needed, and try to show empathy while they attempt to gather the broken pieces.
We are not experts on mental health, so we are unable to give advice; however, we write this to let you know that we stand with you, we have not forgotten you, we hold your (virtual) hand, we are praying for you, and we love you.
May the God who provides peace beyond all understanding hold you during this tough time.
The Island Queen Guide
Dedicated to our friend, Jayme, who lost her aunt during the pandemic. We love you!